From Sister's day out.....

The Single day of a Christian is not a bad day...


"So refuse to worry, and keep your body healthy. But remember that youth, with a whole life before you, is meaningless. Don't let the excitement of youth cause you to forget your Creator. Honor him in your youth before you grow old and say, "Life is not pleasant anymore." Ecc 11:10, Ecc 12:1.



This is d time for Us to understand an unadulterated life wit our creator. Ask Ur Creator 'why was I fashioned n for what?'. Find Ur purpose by studying n fellowship wit d Holy Spirit. We are not created for a bundle of trials n errors...i.e..mistakes. Its wrong to say 'ts my time to make mistakes; let me make them now so in future...i won't make the same mistakes."


At dis phase; we should put in so much in ourselves, investing in our personality... Being Single is a gift of God to Us. For U to be able to be fulfilled; U need Substance in yourself ... That's why d bible stated that 'we should not live an unproductive life'...

"Our people must learn to do good by meeting the urgent needs of others; then they will not be unproductive"
Titus 3:14.


At this phase; people should see U being resourceful, to be prudent, to learn skills, there is nothing added to a man that is a waste...


We learn Wisdom... Let people ask 'how old are U'; d best way to do this is by 'shutting up n let people talk'...gather information from all around


Learn integrity n Strength of Character.


Learn to be trustworthy; be dependable; be stable.


Live a life worthy of emulation.





Don't be carried away by the little things of youthfulness because there's a big life out there and only people wit substance can live there...; have a fellowship with the Holy Spirit so U would be too full to be influenced... U re made on Ur own;




The Bible didn't say U re attached to Abraham's seed; U re Abraham's seed!!

so you should be able to say

"Am an asset; am so full...!! I can meet my own needs; I just need someone to serve God with me."


Whatever U let someone stop U from doing reduces Ur level; don't let anyone stop you from doing things U enjoy... anything!!! else you allow them to reduce your level... U don't need someone to fill up your emptiness!!






"And you yourself must be an example to them by doing good works of every kind. Let everything you do reflect the integrity and seriousness of your teaching.


Teach the truth so that your teaching can't be criticized. Then those who oppose us will be ashamed and have nothing bad to say about us."Titus 2:7-8 you should train yourself so much that nothing entices you anymore. When U re on a mission; U remain focus... This is a serious trip not a pleasure trip!!


(When U buy all the shoes in Centro; what would U do if U get to a bigger mall; You would die there... ) Restrain Ursef; learn it...its hard but necessary!! U lose value if U can't restrain youursef;... What U don't see; U don't think about.
People look down at ladies with the prospect that we can't restrain ourselves but as Children of God; we can restrain ourselves.

We are at the women's era.

"If am an eagle; I should forget d crumps d Chicken are looking for but I should aim for d flesh between the rocks. If I walk wit d Chicken; I will lose my direction"

Ts important to cultivate all of this so d next phase in life would require less counsel.

This is d best time to cultivate relationships; relate wide; with everyone... Learn how to relate wit people wit different kind of attitudes...build relationships with people around U; the opposite sex with a Godly relationship.

A lot of people are too conscious wit themselves; loose it!! Relate with people...widely; don't be shaky! The advantage we have is the Holy Spirit.

We are not banks of trials n errors; we are a bank of wealth n knowledge.

Don't settle for less than God's best for U; if U spend all Ur time relating wit just one person... D fondness increases; if U re not in Charge or wit a cautious environment; U ll lose track.


Don't be too sentimental!!! God will not force someone out of Ur mind/life...U ave to let loose n let go yourself

When U ave opportunities of people telling U to forget r/ships; thank d person...so, in choosing ur life partner... Ur decisions won't be biased!

Don't put yourself in unnecessary bondage; now is the time to get Stuffed...so, when U get there; d decisions won't be hard.

How long would U keep trying to make it work or check compatibility? Stop living Ur life the way of the world. There's so much to life; you can't try them all... Let the Holy Spirit direct U!!

When you are courting the right way; U would change things... When U re not courting d right way; U get carried away by little things...like physical attraction.... at the end of the day; you are unhappy, fighting and struggling to keep up with the relationship

Ur purpose in life is always in accordance wit God's way/will... The more U fellowship with the Holy spirit;the more he reveals to U ur destiny n ur purpose.

Integrity is a depth of ur personality... Our Standard is d Word of God; the word tells Us specific things and how to act... As Children of God; we should ave integrity. Our words; our time... Should be banked on!

If you position Ursef in d path of God's desire for U; U ll be found. There is no age too old for God... God is not slacked in his promises; he made us in pairs...but this is one area he made Us choose but we shouldn't hasten or rush! He will give U d desires of Ur heart; what makes U happy...

Seek personal counsel....or quit...if you are already in a relationship.

PRAY!!!

We walk into complex situations sometimes because of the environment we found ourselves...

Just so you know.....

The truth should be likened to A Face..... no matter the make-up you use to cover up the real image; you still can't truly hide it.... Cover it up all you want; twist it; do whatever.... It's Nothing but the Truth If it's the truth.....

anyways....

While Chatting with one of my Pastors recently; She mentioned something 'Freedom is the hardest thing for anyone to handle'... For days, I pondered on this and I came to the conclusion.... 'Freedom can sometimes be a Punishment'... Not to jump into any form of conclusion..... But; think about it..... Then; make a comment.

People push you a lot with their words... they push you to your limit and you just want to scream.... sit them down and get some info into their heads.... but sometimes; you can't get an access to those people.... So, I thought 'What could be the best way to handle such people' and while I was thinking about them.... I realized 'I didnt use to care about those people... what happened to me?? Ignoring them was my defense mechanism.... ' Maybe that's what I need to do; Ignore them.... Make them rant; talk.... say whatever; believe whatever!! It's not my concern.....

Competition isn't my thing.... I don't think have ever been into such... Of course; I always strive to be the best at everything am into....but competitiveness.... isn't just it. When you are in a competition.... This is what happens; You wish any form of ill-luck for the other people... You lose focus on the purpose of life or whatever and you focus on just being ahead.... You lose yourself and the person you really are.... and at the end of the day; You just can't recognize yourself anymore. The Problem Now is 'Everything i.e School, relationships, fashion....etc.... IS now turned to a competitive race'..... Life used to be way easier when there was no point to compete but you believed deep in your heart that you are the Best there is.... Noone else matters.

While holding on to the wrong things,.... you lose track of the right ones.... Yorubas would say 'bi a ba diju ki eni buruku koja,titi ti eni rere ma fi koja,a ko ni mo'... i.e...  Maybe it's time to stop focusing on the wrong things and focus on what's right.... what is useful for the future and dump everything not useful.....

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